These rules apply to you, whether you are in a relationship, are engaged or married. These rules can also apply to your relationship with your siblings and parents.

 

The right

NEVER to be physically attacked, psychologically degraded or verbally abused by anyone

 

The right

To leave the relationship or ask for divorce

 

The right

Not to be humiliated, judged or be demanded dowry.

 

The right

To continue with your education or job.

 

The right

To leave the house whenever you please and not have to ask permission.

 

The right

Not to be used as a personal slave or nurse for in-laws.

 

The right to

Be treated with respect by your in-laws – physically, emotionally and verbally.

 

The right to

Have complete autonomy over your job, education, earned income and other possessions.

 

The right to

Be equally involved with your partner in all decisions and responsibilities pertaining to your relationship, money, children, home and future.

 

The right

To have friendship with whomever you choose, be it a man or woman.

 

The right to

Have your opinions and feelings respected the same way as his would be.

 

The right to

Express your physical and emotional needs and desires, without being judged for it.

 

The right to

Use contraception and not to be blamed for not bearing a child or a son.

 

The right to

Have your emotional, physical, intellectual and economic needs be given the same level of importance as his.

 

The right to

Receive the same level of commitment from my partner as you put in yourself to make the relationship work, i.e. compromises and sacrifices.

 

The right to

Not be held responsible for your partner’s behaviour.

 

The right to

Seek help from a professional regarding any aspect of your life.

 

The right to

Be believed and not suspected of ‘making up stories’ or ‘exaggerating’ by family, friends, in-laws or professionals.

 

The right to

Not be blamed if the relationship breaks down. It is not just the responsibility of the woman to ‘make it work’.