Figuring out what to do when you’re in an abusive relationship isn’t easy. If you have come this far, then you have overcome half the battle. Well done. It’s okay to feel you are not sure whether you want to leave him or not. From experience, we know that the confusion you are experiencing has many reasons behind it. It could be that you are afraid of the consequences of leaving on your family, husband, children or how society will treat you. It could be because you are afraid you won’t be able to make it on your own.

Many of these feelings can be triggered by depressive symptoms since being depressed changes the way your mind deals with stress. Depression tends to make us feel hopeless, unable to enjoy anything, thinking there is no future for us and makes us believe we cannot achieve anything. However, when depression ends, the same person can suddenly feel full of life and hope. You can read more about Depression here.

If you still feel confused about your decision, know that every woman, whether she decides to stay or leave, has gone through this confusion. It may be that there is a real risk to your life if you leave or that you have nowhere to go. We do understand that there are situations where leaving is not the best option.

If you fall in this category, you can read our ‘I’m staying’ option to find out how to keep safe.

If you are staying because you feel you can’t make it on your own or ‘log kiya kahein gey’, then do consider that human dignity is much more important than being the centre of town gossip for a little while is.

Ultimately, the choice is yours. Make a rational list of why you are staying and ask yourself if it is worth it.

Similarly, if you are someone who is helping a woman make up her mind about her future, please read the ‘I’m worried about someone’ page. We wish you all the best with whatever choice you decide to make.